Saturday, December 18, 2010

Balancing act

I went out with some friends last night to celebrate a milestone. One of my best friends had a baby recently and she was saying how hard it is to be away from her during work. Long days and short evenings mean very little time spent with her precious baby and the weekends are so treasured because it's un-interrupted time to soak in every minute. But there's friends. Good, lovely people that have been there long before the times of husbands and babies and mortgages. People that remember your bad apartments and terrible judgements. People who have stood by you, sometimes holding your hand and sometimes cheering you on. These people are treasures to hold on to. But finding the balance can be difficult. Long lasting friendships don't happen by accident. They require nurturing, and effort. And so do your families. Time spent away from them is painful and the moments are heavy with guilt. So you spend every moment you can with your child, being a great parent but, then you start to remember your friends. You wonder when the last time you spoke to them was. You wonder what's happening in their lives, and how is it that these people that you once spoke to at least once a day are drifting away. People who at one time were so close that you didn't even need to speak in complete sentences to be understood. People you swore you would always be close with. I have three girls that I consider to be my "best" friends. All of my friends are special to me but these girls are my heart. They are three beautiful, strong women that I admire greatly and truly feel blessed to know. I wish I could find a better balance so that I don't always feel like I'm missing out in my personal relationships.

1 comment:

  1. When your kids are really little, and you all have day jobs, it is tough. But you will see that there are seasons--this one might be thin on actual contact, but over time, all your kids will start to play and hang out togrther, and have sleep overs, etc...and grow up together, and all the parent friends will be able to hang out too, and enjoy it all!